Not to far back things in my marriage were going all wrong and I had no clue what I was going to do to save our marriage. Maybe you are in a similar situation now. If your spouse says it's over but you still want to save the marriage, well I think if you let me, I can provide you with some advice which could potenially change and fix your marriage permanently!

It really took me by total surprise when my wife started talking seriously about divorce. I had always thought our marriage was fine, dispite the normal ups and downs and our love for each other would always see things through. I took our relationship for granted and maybe I didn't see the warning signs. It's no shocker I was considerably unprepared for my wife to tell me that she wanted me to move out and was meeting with an attorney!

All the hurt and anger I was feeling are challenging to describe. If you've been down this road already, you probably can relate. The only thing I had running through my head, is what was I going to do to save my marriage. I was stuck, what would it take this time around? I had tried everything I could think of in my sometimes pathetic approach to fix our marriage. Nothing I did seem to do any good, it actually seemed to be making things worse.

All hope for saving my marriage seemed to be lost but some little tips I found slapped some reality into me. Some little bits of info that took me by surprise, and showed me why I was doing it all wrong. Instead of trying to hold on I should have been stepping back, because the more I was pushing the more she was pulling away.

Then, I needed to get a hold of the irrational emotional state which led tom most of the mistakes I was making that most people make which were making the problem even worse. I needed to suck it up so to speak, and put myself in a more positive place and show calmness confidence and control. I was able to take the lead in saving my marriage because if I didn't do it, then who would?

What I had discovered is not only the start of fixing my marriage but creating one that was better than either me or my spouse ever dreamed possible. The best thing about this was that it fixed our marriage, even though it was only me at first who wanted to save it. The key though was the ability for me, to recognize at that time I needed to see my marriage in a new way, like a seperate entity. And I had to be willing to take quick and powerful action right away! Some of this may seem counter intuitive to what you would normally do at first, but trust me, it is not. This stuff works!. You can read more about this approach here - Saving My Marriage